Skip to main content

What are you carrying?

From time to time I really struggle with things, I get all stressed out & annoy my husband & children because I am stressed. The first thing I do when I get like this is I check my priorities, are they in order? This often helps right away, I usually get stressed when my life gets out of balance. I have mentioned my priorities several times before in previous posts - for me being a good wife & mother are my top priorities & everything else comes after that. My first sort of stress comes when I get that out of sync & start putting church stuff or other sorts of work first. This upsets the balance in our home & inside of me - not good. To "reset" the balance I usually start by cleaning the house or spending time with the children, just a practical way of reminding myself of what is most important in my life.

I have noticed that on top of getting out of sync with my priorities I have an additional factor that causes me stress. This stress comes from what I am carrying. My role in church varies from doing admin to singing to washing cloths to preaching to editing the website - you name it I do it. I love everything that I do & love serving in the House of God. I am always very busy & love doing as much as possible in any given day. I can do a lot in a day & feel fulfilled & not get stressed at all. But there is a difference between serving & carrying. The leader carries the burden, the leader carries the weight of what they lead. There is a huge weight & level of responsibility in leading in any area of church or life. I lead in some areas & I serve in other areas. The stress & confusion comes when I try carry (or lead) something that I am meant to be serving in. For example I am Eric's helper in church - whatever Eric does I try be available to help if he needs me. I don't have to carry the load of that role, he carries the load & I support/serve/help. However within that role I handle all the churches systems & admin. This role I carry as God has given me a gift for this & I love it, there is no stress for me in this area as I am designed to do this. If Eric had to do this he would find it very stressful as he doesn't enjoy admin or have any sort of gift in this area. I can fiddle with spreadsheets, documents, websites, etc all day & at the end of the day I feel full & happy because it fills me it doesn't drain me. I carry it because I was designed to carry this, God made me this way.

This week I tried to carry the full weight of something that wasn't mine to carry & it really stressed me out. As soon as I realised I was carrying it rather than serving the leader who should be carrying it, I found my peace again. I stopped worrying immediately, got on with my "role" in that area by let go of the "weight" of it. I realised that I am not designed to carry that aspect of church life & quite frankly I don't really want to carry it, I already have enough on my plate. So what about you, have you ever considered this? Life can be amazingly fulfilling & rewarding if we can figure this out. Even Jesus, in Matthew 11:28-30, says how he wants us to carry certain burdens & give the rest to Him. Are you perhaps trying to carry something that is not yours to carry or are you perhaps not serving in an area that God has called you to serve? If it is stressing you out & just doesn't feel right perhaps you shouldn't be carrying it!


  1. Anonymous17.2.10

    AMAZING ANGELA!!! I've had a coupe of "stressful" weeks and this post is EXACTLY what I needed to read! Fabuous writing... it helped me to put things in perspective. Thank you so much!!

    Much Love - Jana

  2. Anonymous26.2.10

    Once again an excellent and timely article. Well done!


Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Hope's Journey

"There was a time when all I wanted was to die but now that I have tasted life I really don’t want to die until I have truly lived!" Hope's Journey is a heart wrenching account of Angela's struggle with depression and suicide.   "This book is helpful for people that are going through tough times as well for those who are trying to support them. It gives valuable insight into the feelings experienced in the midst of the situations as well as the tools Angela used to find her way through them. The tools are useful for anyone trying to find hope in dark situations, whatever they may be, and are helpful for leading a stronger, more balanced life." Ali Kirkwood  Available at: | | Kindle StudyGuide: | | More Info  Contents: Introduction Suicide Eat, Sleep & Exercise Have a Checkup First Things First Make Hope Make List Tell Someone Choose Your Friends Understand Hormo

Conference Feedback

We had a beautiful day together on 8th September, thank you so much to you all for your incredible support and prayers. Feedback and testimonies have already started flooding in, have a read of some of them here . Also, keep an eye on our YouTube page as we update it with the speakers messages and conference highlight videos. We had the stunning Instruments of Praise gospel choir lead us in worship and it was truly heavenly. We also had Daughters of Davis who absolutely blew us away with their fantastic acoustic folk/soul vibe. Our Women in Business section was a real treat with stalls offering all sorts of beautifully displayed goods. Jill Chitty from the Entrepreneurs Circle spoke to the women in business offering practical tips for business growth. Other breakout sessions included a Hope for Justice talk by Naomi and Cynthia shared her testimony of life as a Samburu woman . Molly Catherine Beebee from Cirencester Creative Dance Academy dazzled us with

For Such a Time As This

Hello King's Daughters, It's been a while since I've been in touch and King's Daughters has been very quiet, in fact totally dormant.  During this time of dormancy, a seed has been growing inside of me and it's so strong that I have to seriously consider if it's God saying "It's time".  Time to start taking back what the enemy has stolen from us. Time to fight for our families, schools, churches, communities and nation. Time to pray together and be proactive, not reactive to what is going on in the world today. Time to talk about the complex topics that our churches may not be ready to discuss openly such as gender confusion and mental health issues. Time to learn how to generate an income or second income by using what's in our hands and to have extra to be generous to the world around us as we face economic uncertainty.  Time to find balance when everyone else is consumed by busyness. I have a story to tell, a struggle I've been through t