School is not for everyone

 “Everybody is a genius, but if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life, thinking it is stupid.” — Albert Einstein.

It breaks my heart to see how many young people are suffering because the school system doesn't work for them. Not everyone learns in the same way, not everyone has the same needs but the school system expects everyone to be measured in the same way and judged as good enough accordingly. I was one such young person who could have done so much better if I went to the right school. What I mean by that is that I was a hard worker, I never slacked at school but never got acceptable grades. I passed but never felt good enough because no matter how hard I worked I never got the grades that the clever kids got. So I spent most of my life believing that I was not intelligent. 

What a waste! 

I'm nearly 50 years old and only recently realised that I am actually quite intelligent, I'm not stupid at all. The way I learn is very practical and hands-on, I don't manage a lot of memorising and repeating what I memorised but if I am given a problem to solve I will learn the solution very quickly. For example, if I am given new computer software I won't read the manual but I will open the program and start fiddling. If I get stuck I will find the relevant part in the manual. That's how I learn and how I enjoy learning which is why school never suited me. I went to an academic school, had I gone to a commercial school, technical or art school I would have thrived, but I went to the one school type that was so opposite to what I needed.

I think it's so important to use the grades that you people get to understand them and their learning needs better and to accommodate them rather than push everyone to achieve a certain acceptable grade regardless of who they are and how they learn. 

That leads me to another thing, school isn't for everyone. There is a growing homeschooling movement and many are finding this way of educating their children extremely rewarding. 

How to start homeschooling:

  1.  Choose a System: You do not have to follow the national curriculum. There are many different homeschooling systems out there, do some research and see what suits you. I have used and highly recommend the ACE. It's a brilliant system that allows your child to work at a pace that suits them. They offer fantastic support to homeschoolers too. Find out more here

  2. Deregister: If your child is currently at school, you should send a letter to the headteacher of the school if you plan to educate them at home. The headteacher should inform your Local Authority that the child is no longer attending the school. You have the right to educate your child at home, they cannot stop you from deregistering your child.

  3. Set your day plan: Next choose how you will plan your day, you and your child can agree on times when they will work independently and times when you will work together. You need to provide between three and five hours of learning per day, depending on their child's age.

  4. Be creative: Have fun with your child's education. You aren't limited to a classroom or even the indoors. You can learn outdoors, you can go on road trips and learn whilst travelling. The world is your oyster and learning can be rewarding and fun. 

  5. Find a local community: One of the biggest concerns for homeschoolers is that their child will become isolated but that doesn't need to be the case. There are many homeschooling communities you can connect with. You can also connect with your local church that runs a youth group and join interest-based groups such a sports clubs, theatre groups, art clubs, etc based on your child's interests.
I found homeschooling incredibly flexible and rewarding, it actually took up a lot less time than I thought and was able to run my business alongside homeschooling. 

Leave me a comment below, I would love to hear from you if you have homeschooled or are considering it. 


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Your body is a like a computer, if you want to lose weight work on the code!

My heart breaks when I see people trying to lose weight or get healthier and they just can't. They end up yo-yo dieting, feeling like a complete failure, becoming malnourished or worse, putting on weight because they've completely messed their body up.

So I've come up with a little analogy that will hopefully help those struggling. Our bodies are like computers, they are coded to work in a certain way. A shiny nice new computer starts up super fast and works really well, giving you no trouble at all, but after some time, it gets slower and slower and might even stop working completely. This is because you've perhaps downloaded things that have damaged the code or fiddled with the computer that confused the programming. 

Your body is no different, it should run perfectly but we put things in it or neglect it and then it gets sluggish resulting in lethargy and weight problems. 

So what do we do? We start dieting! We think that starving ourselves, or filling ourselves with shakes or taking all sorts of things will solve the problem but what we actually end up doing is more damage and the problem compiles. What we need to do is simply 'reprogram' our bodies so that they are able to function again, this will enable you to get to your ideal weight and keep it off. Here are some common diet mistakes that people make:

Calorie deficit
It seems like common sense, eat less than you burn and you will lose weight. Yes, you might lose weight but then when you start eating again you will put it all back on again. Actually, when eating fewer calories than your body needs you will actually slow your metabolism which will slow your ability to lose weight. The goal is to increase the metabolism not slow it! So stop starving yourself, rather reprogram your body to balance your hormones and increase your metabolism, that way you are set for life!

Protein shakes
Your body only needs on average 50g of protein each day. For an exact amount for you, calculate 0.75g of protein per kilo of body weight. The first problem with protein shakes is that many contain sugar and can have more than 1,200 calories per shake! There's also evidence that consuming too much protein can lead to an increased risk of osteoporosis and could worsen existing kidney problems. It's just not natural to consume so much protein and a diet based on protein shakes is unbalanced, as soon as you start eating again the weight will pile back on.

Atkins, Keto, Paleo, etc
There are so many diets you can choose from but the rule of thumb is that if you lose weight quickly you are likely to put it on just as quickly causing a lifetime of yo-yo dieting. Be patient and take the time it takes to reprogram your body so you can be done with dieting forever!

Get back to basics - listen to your body. You will be surprised how much it will tell you about what it needs to eat and drink, and when. The goal is a good metabolism and balanced hormones. Once you've got that right your weight will take care of itself.

I write a short little workbook on the basics of how to reprogram your body so that you can enjoy energy and vitality again whilst taking control of your weight back forever by simply reprogramming your body so it works as it should once again.
  7 Steps to Your Ideal Weight 
This post is not a sales pitch at all, I just want to help. However, if you would like to buy my super simple 7 Simple Steps to Your Ideal Weight you can do so here or if you would like the eBook version you can get it here.


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