King's Daughters Conference - Women in Business

It's with great excitement that I would like to announce a new feature to our King's Daughters Conference, Women in Business. This will be held in the stunning Oval Room at the Pittville Pump Rooms.

Jill Chitty, a well known successful business woman will be talking to us about how to grow our businesses and promises to be highly profitable.  The King's Daughters Conference is dedicated to supporting and promoting your business.

An opportunity like this won't often come your way as you will have a captive audience of up to 400 women taking a look at your businesses. Limited tables are available at £50 for the entire day, to book you table please contact me.  In the meantime, take a look at the business that have already registered and keep an eye on updates here:


Su Luxury Confectionery

We do everything in style at our King's Daughters Conference which is why we are having custom, home-made luxury sweets by Su Luxury Confectionery.


Defined Financial Solutions 

A Family and Business Protection Specialist will be available to talk to you. Everyone should protect themselves, their family and their business. 

Glitter and Gloss
We will be joined by the county's pampering experts this year to give you a well deserved pamper. They will be offering mini-manicures with nail painting and some beautifully elegant nail art designs. Enjoy all this for only £5.  For all who visit them a much sought after voucher will be given for either one of their popular makeover parties for girls 4 - 16 years or a Pamper Evening for ladies with massages and foot spas and much, much more.... www.glitterandgloss.co.uk  


CCDA started in 1997 with 10 enthusiastic performers and has since grown into a well respected school of the arts.  Not only do they have 7 highly regarded specialist teachers who offer classes in Tap, Jazz, Street, Freestyle and Contemporary but they also offer classes in musical theatre enabling singing, dancing and drama for those who want to perform in all disciplines.  King's Daughters is thrilled to welcome Molly, a beautiful classical ballet dancer from CCDA to this year's conference stage.www.ccda.co.uk



Ascent from Darkness

A life of difficulty and disappointment set 33-year old Michael Leehan up for the worst decision of his life—to make a deal with the Devil to follow and serve him. Practicing the dark arts that include ritualistic cuttings and blood sacrifices, while fine tuning his manipulation and control skills, Michael launched into a twenty year downward spiral that included job loss and detachment from loved ones, and even jail time. 

But God had another plan that included a group of Christian men to love him and pray for him—even when it became evident his assignment from Satan was to kill their pastor, Craig Groeschel.

At first I was sceptical and didn't buy into the whole Satanist thing as it seemed too stereotypical with the usual burning of candles at the tips of a pentagram, killing cats and reading the book of shadows.  Perhaps many of us including myself are desensitised by TV programs such as Charmed, which I watched a lot of in my youth.  BUT, it wasn't long before I was gripped by Michael's story and could not put the book down. What shocked me most was how the devil has church and Christians all figured out.  We seem easy prey, we seem weak and we seem slack in our devotion to our God.

I highly recommend this book to all Christians as it will shock you out of any form of complacency in your walk with God. This book was such an eye opener that I even used it in a sermon the day after reading it. I had a sense of urgency and did not want the church to walk in ignorance for one minute longer than they had to. You can listen to the sermon I preached here - Session 4, The Dark Side or buy the book from Amazon.

*  This book was provided to me for free by Thomas Nelson for my honest review.


Nature's Way - Hair Colouring

Good news for those of you living in the EU but sadly bad news for my USA friends.  Europe is well ahead of the USA in its responses to potentially dangerous chemicals in health and beauty products. On 1st December 2007 a ban was imposed on 22 hair dye substances issued by the European Commission.  These ingredients had been linked to bladder cancer in a 2001 University of Southern California study.  G√ľnter Verheugen, the European Commission Vice-President, said, "Substances for which there is no proof that they are safe will disappear from the market.  Our high safety standards do not only protect EU consumers, they also give legal certainty to the European cosmetics industry." The USA however, has not required manufacturers to file data on ingredients or report cosmetic-related injuries.  If you wish to find the exact 22 ingredients do an Internet search for ‘Europe Bans 22 Hair Dye Chemicals’ The most dangerous hair dye ingredients are the Arylamines chemicals.  One of these is called Phenylenediamine (PPD) and is present in about seventy five percent of chemical hair dyes including non-permanent ‘natural’ products.  It is known to be toxic to the immune system, skin, nervous system, respiratory system, liver and kidneys.

    Despite the fact that many hair dyes are extremely toxic many companies get away with using them by providing a warning on the box.  Their warning states that you should not allow their hair dye to come into contact with the skin and because of this warning they can justify using the chemicals that they do.  Sadly, as you may already know, you cannot avoid all contact with your skin.  It either gets onto your hands somehow or most certainly touches your scalp in places.  Once it has contact with the skin it is absorbed into your blood stream and released into your body.

    Laboratory experiments have shown that PPD damages the DNA of human cells and of course accumulated DNA damage leads to cancer.  These harmful chemicals are not only found in home hair dye kits but can also be found in salon dyes.  It’s essential to talk to your hair dresser and find out what ingredients are in the products they use.  Many have died from ignorance.  That is extreme but true but even if you don’t get cancer you still risk losing your hair as many people have reported hair thinning and hair loss as a result of the chemicals in hair dyes.  The following table shows the health concerns based on commonly used hair dye.

Nature’s Way Alternatives

Dark Hair
Henna is the best way to colour darker hair.  Henna has been used for thousands of years and traces have even been found on the hair and beards of ancient Egyptian mummies.  Henna acts like a hair varnish that coats the outside of your hair, protecting and coating the cuticle.  The results are natural colours and a stunning shine.  Either buy Henna in its pure leaf form or get a Henna block which also contains cocoa butter from Lush.  The thing I like most about Henna is that it works with the natural colour of each strand of your hair.  This means that you don’t get only one shade in your hair which tends to look very unnatural but a gorgeous natural looking head of hair. 

•    Conditioned hair
•    Natural shine
•    Damage protection
•    Stronger hair
•    Reduction of dandruff
•    No harmful chemicals

•   In rare cases Henna has been known to turn hair green but there is a simple remedy –  Henna over the top to build up a rich, not green, colour.
•   Ensure you buy 100% natural Henna and not Henna with additives and this would completely defeat the purpose of using Henna in the first place.
•   Do a strand test first by colouring only a few strands to see if you get the desired result. 

Ingredients:   Henna

Method:    Mix powder with water into a paste and apply to clean dry hair.  Protect your forehead from staining by rubbing some oil into your hairline before applying the Henna. Separate your hair into small sections and apply Henna from root to tip. Cover your hair for a more red shade and leave uncovered for a brown tone.  Leave in for minimum one hour, for best results leave in for four hours. Rinse really well and then wash as usual.

Usually detailed instructions accompany the Henna powder or the Henna blocks from Lush.

Light Hair:
Sunshine and lemon juice is the best ways to lighten hair.  Lemon juice contains high concentration of nourishing elements like vitamin C, vitamin B, and phosphorous along with antioxidant properties.  A sensible amount of sun is also very good for you as the sun produces Vitamin D in your body. 
Ingredients:   Lemon Juice and Sun

Method:    To use lemon juice and the sun mix the juice of 1 fresh lemon with 8 tablespoons of water and rub it in to your dry hair.  Leave in your hair for four hours and then rinse. To speed up the process lie in the sun.  Cover your body with cloth and spread your hair out to absorb the rays. 

Now it's your turn.
If you have any hair colouring tips that work well, please share them with us.  Find out more about Nature's Way here.


King's Daughters Live Video

Welcome to a brand new section on my blog for video posts.  I am both nervous and excited about this as videos are a lot less safe that written posts.  Never-the-less, I will feel the fear and do it anyway in the hope that somehow this will further the kingdom.  Below is my very first video from a Girl's Night that we held in Ross-on-Wye, UK last week.  Subscribe to King's Daughters on our new Youtube page.  Before you watch, please don't be too critical and have mercy on me as this is only a humble, small begining with lots of room for growth :) 


World Wide News

This past week has been incredible and I have so much fantastic news to share with you. Last night we had a Girl's Night in Ross-on-Wye, on Tuesday The Tale of a Church Planter was represented in USA but to start off with I am going to share the most awesome news... on 12th May 2012, King's Daughters went international with the launch of King's Daughters Uganda.  I could not possible edit the beautiful email Caroline sent me so without further ado, read what Caroline had to say about the day. 

King's Daughters Uganda
King's Daughters Uganda was launched on 12th May 2012 in Kampala Uganda.  We exist for the purpose of reaching to all women of all walks of life with the gospel of Jesus Christ by encouraging them who go through challenges in their marriages by trying to provide scriptural solutions.  We also want to teach our young girls on how to live godly lives because they are the mothers of tomorrow.

It was a humbling moment for me personally when the invited women began to stream in one by one with excitement written all over their faces. We began with a word of prayer, then praise and worship. I then introduced the vision and purpose of King's Daughters Uganda. We then shared the Word and later had an open discussion.

All the participants were in agreement that such an idea should be carried on as rarely do we have such person to person encouragement. Most of them accepted that they are going through turbulent times in their marriages. There exists conflicts with their husbands and what exactly is the role of women and mother taking into consideration the cultural set-up of African societies. Consequently, we are embarking on exploring solutions for these problems and try to provide sufficient scriptural backing for African woman.

We shared a meal that was provided by our  family. And as expected of an African mother, they never left their children behind. It was all joyful as we ate and reflected on the future of King's daughters Uganda.
The most interesting bit was concerning the lady photographer we hired to take photographs. She is a Muslim and we did not know about this previously. In fact it was my husband who invited her to the occasion with a sole reason of taking photos. As she was going about her work, interestingly she was keenly following the proceedings. At the end of the event, she humbly asked us "How can i be involved in this given the fact that am a Muslim?" She says that she has never heard  the teachings and ideas raised in her religion. She immediately registered her name and wants to be involved in the next meeting. She is a young lady aged 21 yrs. We intend to encourage her to join the young girls fellowship when we start our group meetings on 3rd June 2012. Kindly pray for her as we believe God for her salvation.

Also pray for us to continue the momentum and continued God's provision.

We thank you Angela for your prayers and moral support. We are counting in you for your Spiritual guidance, advise and direction.

Caroline Emmy Mwawasi

King's Daughters Uganda are currently studying the Being a Wife series.  If you want to start a King's Daughters group please get in touch, we provide all the material and as much support as possible. See more photos of the Uganda launch here.

King's Daughters in USA

On Tuesday I had the privilege of being interviewed by Missio Nexus, USA.  They have picked up my book, The Tale of a Church Planter, and not only reviewed it and endorsed it but have also used it as teaching material for a Church Planting class of 30 graduate students.  Since I wasn't able to be interviewed in person we set up a studio in my home and did the interview live through the Internet.  Isn't technology amazing.  More news will follow when the interview is posted on their website but in the meantime enjoy some photos of our little home studio taken by Lorah Kelly.


King's Daughters in Ross-on-Wye

Last night we had a fantastic evening together with the ladies from Ross-on-Wye.  We enjoyed an African buffet cooked by Angela Olelo along with CythiaD7 Band did a stunning acoustic worship set and I shared a message about leaving your past behind and getting on with the future and hope that God has for you.  This was based on my Loving Life Series of books where I shared how God had taken the dirt from my life and turned it into a beautiful diamond.    

We successfully raised funds for Amos' education and Cynthia was thrilled to report that he is back in school with another terms fees paid up.  The highlight of the evening was the precious moment during the altar call where new birth took place.  I never stop being in awe when I see a hand raised to say yes to Jesus.  Praise God for new life!


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Have a lovely day and I look forward to sharing more World Wide News with you soon.



Being a Friend - Who Lays Down Their Life

Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends.  -  John 15:13

These are the words of Jesus on friendships.  How can He expect so much of us?  Well, the preceding verse can give us a clue.  In John 15:12 Jesus says, “This is My commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you.”  Jesus is only asking us to do what He has already done.   He has led the way and set the ultimate example for us.

It seems like a tall order doesn’t it?  Jesus knew what was coming though.  He knew how cold and heartless people would get.  He knew that if He didn’t give us some guidelines that we would lose the plot.  He probably predicted that we would become selfish and that we would get so busy that we would have little time for friendships.  In Matthew 24:10-12 Jesus says of the end times that, “many will be offended, will betray one another, and will hate one another.  Then many false prophets will rise up and deceive many.  And because lawlessness will abound, the love of many will grow cold.”

We need to resist being caught up in the lifestyle of many and determine to do what is right rather than go with the flow.  Few people value true friendship and most people will not lay down their life for a friend.  If things get too demanding or too difficult most people simply move on to another friend.  However, Jesus said not to do so.  He told us clearly to love one another and to lay down our life for our friends.  That means that when things get tough we stand by each other.  We support each other even if it hurts.  At times we might be annoyed or become irritable with our friends and their little habits.  We should endure these things and determine to stick by them even when difficult things pop up.

Being a friend and having a friend needs to become valuable to us.  In our modern culture we have become accustomed to quick, easy and disposable.  Sadly, many of us view people this way too.  If there is no quick fix we are not interested.  If the relationship requires work and is not easy we give up.  If we can’t be bothered, we simply dispose of our friendship and pick up another one.

To be a friend is to lay down our life for our friends.

Find out more about Being a Friend here or about using our material to host your own Girl's Night here



Over the past few weeks it has been on my heart to speak to our church about SIN - again (do you remember the last time?).  I can't say that I was very excited at first to bring this message and I knew that I would not be anyone's favourite preacher afterwards!  But as the days went by the conviction grew and so I did preach on sin last Sunday and will do so again this coming Sunday.
   It grieves me that there is little difference between the church and the world these days.  That the divorce rate is just as high in the church as it is in the world and that things like pornography, homosexuality, materialism, gossip and other such things are commonly found in the lives of 'mature' Christians.  Mostly, it breaks my heart that so many pastors are 'falling' into sin these days too.  
  So what is the answer?  How can the church become a holy place again where God is respected and feared?  I don't have the answer but I do know that if we continue to tolerate sin in our lives as we do we will lose all that God has planned for us.  Far worse than that, many will not be saved because their will not see see the light that we should be shining because we are too entrenched in darkness.
   I believe God wants to purge His church.  I believe He wants to purify her so that Jesus can return to earth to fetch His beautiful bride.  I believe that we need to take sin inside the church seriously and stop playing with 'fire'.  How can we reach out to the lost, to the sinners, to those that are walking around blind if we are still blind?  It's time to grow up church, it's time to stop playing with pooh and it's time to deal with our sin.

Yet indeed I also count all things loss for the excellence of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord, for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and count them as rubbish, that I may gain Christ   - Philippians 3:8

Are we still passionate about Jesus or is He only in our life when it's convenient and benefits us?  Do we read the Bible because we are desperate to know Him or are we looking for verses that we can use to make our life more comfortable and more blessed?  What does Christianity mean to you these days?  Are you deeply in love with Jesus, so much so that you count everything else as rubbish?

‘Thus says the Lord of hosts: “Return to Me,” says the Lord of hosts, “and I will return to you,” - Zechariah 1:3

I don't mean to be heavy but my heart is heavy and I believe it is with the burden that is on God's heart.  He wants His beautiful children to return to Him with all of their heart, soul, strength and mind.  He is a jealous God and is desperate to be loved by us but we can't love Him if we are loving other things first.  Count everything as rubbish - absolutely everything - so that you may gain Christ.

Listen to the five part series here:  

A Beautiful Bride
Kill or Be Killed
The Dark Side
Press On with Fear


Being a Friend - Who is a Friend

To have a friend you need to be a friend first.
Being a friend is the essential ingredient in any friendship.  I have never met a friendly lonely person.  It just doesn’t exist.  If you are sowing friendship then it stands to reason that you will reap friendship.  Sadly, I have met many lonely people and in most cases I have found that they have a very selfish attitude in the area of friendships.  These people tend to expect other people to want to be their friends and they complain when no one seems to bother trying to be their friend.  I have heard on many occasion the complaints of this sort of person.  They will say things like,
    “No one came to speak to me today at church!”
    To which I respond,
    “Who did you go to speak to today at church?”
    They could even complain that no one speaks to them at work or at their child’s mothers group.  This example applies to any setting.  Do you go up to people and speak to them or do you wait for people to come up to you first?
Or they will say,
    “No one ever phones me to see how I am!”
    To which I respond,
    “Who have you called this week?”
    Or perhaps their complain will be,
    “No one seems to care about me or even notice that I exist.”
    To which I respond,
    “Who are you noticing in your world, who do you care about?”

I could go on but I am sure you are getting the picture.  Listen to yourself and to your complaints.  What is coming out of your mouth?  What are your desires?  Are you sowing what you hope to reap?  Remember, to have a friend you need to be a friend first.

It has been said that a sorrow shared is halved, but a joy shared is doubled.  Proverbs 27:10a says, “Do not forsake your friend or a friend of your family” because you may need that friend in times of trouble.  Consider your own life, who do you feel free to run to in times of trouble?  Who do you share your joy with?  Are you being a good friend to your friends and friends of your family or do you only call on them in times of trouble?  A sure way to know if you are being a good friend is to consider how many people come to you with their joys and sorrows.  Do people feel free to come to you and share these things with you?  To be a friend means that you not only have someone to go to but that you are also available for people to come to when they need a friend. 

Friendships are one of the most important things in a life.  Their worth is not diminished by time, not devalued by inflation, not worn out by use, but like a fine wine, they improve over the years.  Start investing in being a friend today, don’t wait until crisis hits to realise that you have no real friends.

Decide today that you will be a friend to others and then intentionally go out of your way to offer your friendship by being a friend first.  You never know, there may be some lovely people are in your world that you never noticed before.  They might even turn out to be your best friend!

Find out more about Being a Friend here or about using our material to host your own Girl's Night here.  



Momaholic is not quite what I expected.  Perhaps it was the cover that lead me to believe it was a comedy.  It is anything but a comedy.  This is a story showing the speed with which a “normal” family can fall apart. No one dies. No one gets kidnapped. They just have to deal with each of their own issues….and then one unwanted and unplanned pregnancy. This was a church-going family whose kids were taught abstinence until marriage. With the family running around as the tornado sirens roared warnings to take cover, mother, Miss Drama, becomes the biggest mess of all and ends up finding a whole new freedom for her soul. 
    Many times I found myself nodding in agreement with Dena and then crying from understanding her pain.  Life can throw some difficult things at us and Dena surely had her fair share.  This book is a beautiful story of a courageous woman who tries to find and keep the the balance in her life.
    Dena's writing style is very conversational which makes this book a quick read.  I see it as her story more than a 'how to' book as she doesn't actually offer any keys to finding and keeping the balance in life.  Thank you to Thomas Nelson for providing me with Momaholic for review.  I thoroughly enjoyed it.


Being a Friend - The 5 Stages of Friendship

Small Talk 
All relationships have a starting point and usually friendships start with small talk. You meet a new person and then you get chatting about the weather or if you have children you chat about the latest cute thing that your child is doing. From there you might delve deeper onto more personal small talk or you might stay in a safe zone and talk about the weather for as long as possible. Small talk is great for gathering information about another person so you can begin to get to know them. That first chat is often when we learn the other person’s name, find out about their job, interests, where they live and whether or not she is married or has any children. It’s is important to strike a balance between expressing an interest in their life and not seeming plain nosey. People are usually more than happy to talk about themselves. Staying in the small talk stage means that this person is someone that you know in passing. You interact with them occasionally or even regular basis, but you never progress past small talk. A personal relationship cannot be developed at this stage and to progress the friendship you will need to move the relationship outside of the event that brought you together in the first place. To move forward from this stage visit with her one on one or be more intentional in your next conversation. 

You have agreed to meet up again after one or more small talk meetings. This stage is when you go a little deeper and step out of the safe zone of small talk. You ask her questions about personal things and she asks you more about your life. It is here when you begin to connect possibly over a nice cup of coffee together. As you spend more and more time together you being to forge a bond of friendship but this stage is still too soon for things such as sharing deep opinions and asking advice. It is here that you either hit it off or pull back. Coffee friendships are great for a night out or for doing fun stuff with. They don’t need to go any deeper but still serve a purpose in your life. You can easily have a large circle of 'coffee' friends in your life and it is a good idea to keep several of these sorts of friendships alive. To move a friendship forward from the stage you will need to go deeper into real life issues. 

Life friends are the ones that you discuss real life issues with and who you go to if you need advice. You will do everyday ordinary life things with these friends without feeling self conscious such as putting on a load of laundry during a conversation or asking her for help with the dishes after dinner. You friendship is real and you feel comfortable being yourself around her knowing that she won’t judge you and you won’t judge her. You are not concerned about her opinion of you as you know she likes you for who you are in the same way that you like her for who she is. A certain level of trust has developed and you value her opinion in important matters. You would consider her part of your inner circle and are comfortable with her being close to your family. These are people who know quite a bit about your life, and have likely been through a few ups and downs with you. Life friends are generally those you see and talk to most often.  

For a friendship to truly mature it needs to face conflict. As with all things in life, nothing is valuable unless it has been tested and proven valuable. Conflict is the stage of a friendship that does just this, it tests and proves the friendship. Sadly not all friendships survive conflict but those that do will be friendships for life. They will be your strongest and deepest friendships. It is in the conflict stage where you honestly confront your friend about something that is bugging you or equally where you have to receive some sort of rebuke or confrontation about something from your friend. The Bible say, ‘Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.’ Superficial friends will flatter you and tell you what you want to hear but a truly good friend will say what needs to be said even if it might hurt. Conflict is never easy or pleasant but it is a necessary stage of friendship. To progress your friendships from conflict ensure that you truly hear what they have to say. Don’t be offended. Don’t retaliate. Only receive their friendship and their love and allow your friendship to grow through conflict. If ever your friend makes a mistake and says something hurtful in error, chose to forgive in the same way you would like to be forgiven when you make a mistake too. This will only mature your friendship and take it to the next level.  

Best Friends  
She is a woman who has travelled with you into the final stage of friendship and has become your best friend. Few ever make it to this stage but those that do will be your friend for life. Time and distance will not change a thing, a best friend remains a best friends and this friendship needs to be cherished, valued and nurtured. A best friend completely and utterly gets you. You can say or do the wrong thing but a best friend will know the true you and not even notice your error or moment of stupidity. Best friends feel like family because they are there for us during the most important moments of our life. A best friend brings out the best in you and is your cheerleader in life. They celebrate your success with you without any jealousy and cry with you in your times of sadness or mourning. In the same way, you need to be someone else’s best friend by loving them as you wish to be loved and by being there for them as you need someone to be there for you. A sure way to damage a best friend relationship is to always take and seldom give. Enjoy your best friends and make sure you are being a best friend too.

Find out more about Being a Friend here or about using our material to host your own Girl's Night here.   

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