Free from Shame

And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. This is how it was in the beginning. People walked with God, in a beautiful garden, totally naked! Although it was clearly a physical nakedness I also believe it was a nakedness of heart. They had nothing to hide from God, absolutely nothing at all. Shame was something that they had NEVER known! Can you imagine that - never, ever having known shame?

We carry all sorts of shame. Most woman are ashamed of some of their physical features, most women are ashamed of bad things they have done and most woman are ashamed of who they have not become! Shame is a big part of modern living, isn’t it? So let’s get to the bottom of this so that we can live a life that is free from shame. Let’s get back to walking carefree with God in this garden we call Earth. 

Since we are on a gardening theme, let’s use some gardening principles. If you want to get rid of a bothersome plant or tree, you have to dig it up by the roots. If you don’t get rid of the roots the tree will keep popping up again and again. It will NEVER go away no matter what you do. You simply have to dig up the root! So let’s plan our gardening project by first analysing the situation and then forming a ‘root lifting’ strategy.

So what is the root of shame? Let’s take a peek back at Adam and Eve. They didn’t have any shame and then they did have shame. The first observation is that they were ‘not ashamed’ and then what they became ‘ashamed’ about was of course their nakedness.

Find out how to get free from shame in my new book 'Free'. More chapter snippets will follow soon, full details about this book are available here


How to Find Your Personal Style

Hi girls,

Angela has asked me to do a guest blog of wardrobe tips ahead of King’s Daughters Conference 2011. The plan for the day sounds so amazing I can’t wait to meet you all and I’m looking forward to talking about ‘On Beauty, Body And Clothes’.

The work I do is all based around introducing girls and women to Jesus, to His unconditional love and all He has done for us. Among other things, that has included me dealing with subjects like beauty and clothes because they are connected to the way we feel about ourselves which has everything to do with us knowing Jesus. But more about that at the conference…!

In the mean time, I wanted to tell you a little bit about the session I will be running during the dinner break: HOW TO FIND YOUR PERSONAL STYLE. I believe that because we are all unique, each of us has an individual style – our own taste and way of putting clothes and accessories together. I don’t believe that any one person’s style is better that another person’s. In fact I think that each person’s style is very precious – something no one else could ever have and no money could buy.

I’ll tell you why as well as it being fun, I think finding your personal style is a useful thing to do. (For one thing, it can have a lot of benefits on your wardrobe including saving you money!).

I’ll also tell you how it is that many of us get out of tune with our personal tastes, ending up with a style that’s not really ‘us’ at all but how that doesn’t have to stop us finding our true style.

And I’ll take you step by step through how to find your personal taste and develop it into a style of dressing. But if you’d like to make a start on this over the next few weeks, here’s how:

The first stage in finding your personal style – your own way with clothes and accessories, with decorating your house, planning a dinner party, or whatever – is getting in touch with your personal taste – your likes and dislikes. So begin to ask yourself: “What do I like the appearance of?” Begin broadly with any ideas that come to mind. They may be landscapes, films, paintings, a period in history. Jot them down.

Ultimately we will be creating an ‘inspiration board’ – a personal style scrapbook that is reflective of your own tastes, a collage of looks you love and might want to imitate. To begin, you will need to collect some cuttings.  Some of the following shops have free catalogues that you could order for cuttings. Otherwise you can print off images of things you like.

Source things from everywhere which appeal to your eye. It may be a style of writing, a page from an in-flight magazine, a food wrapper, a book cover… And get inspired – you could take a trip somewhere like the costume galleries at a museum, go to the library to look in books and take photocopies, hire some films. Look for ideas everywhere you go. Look at postcards, greetings cards, nature colour swatches in paint shops…

Tear or print out pictures of clothes, accessories, fabrics and makeup you like and any other things you feel drawn to the appearance of. It’s good to share magazines with friends but important to do the cuttings ON YOUR OWN. Don’t be limited or put off by anything. Don’t even consider whether it would fit/suit you/be affordable. This is your opportunity not to say: “I’d have that if… I had more money, a different figure, a better social life, was a few decades younger, my husband would approve…” but your fantasy shopping trip!

Have a lot of fun! And come to the session at the conference with all your questions and ideas. I’d love to see how you’ve got on with your cuttings!

Lots of love,

PS Angela’s just done a brilliant blog about not conforming to what the world says when it comes to our appearance so it may seem strange that I’m promoting all these magazines and websites to you. However, for this exercise, they’re the tools we have available so let’s make good use of them!


Being a Woman - Who Does Not Conform

I was shocked at how it made me feel! I went from being a perfectly content brunette to wanting to be a blond! Within five minutes I went from feeling good about myself to feeling completely dissatisfied with my physical appearance. I couldn’t believe what an affect it had on me and if that is how it affected me, someone who is quite OK with my physical appearance, then how much more would it have affected an insecure person! 

That is effective advertising and marketing for you. It’s a multi-billion pound industry dedicated to making you feel bad about yourself so that you buy their products or services. Have you ever read a magazine and felt better as a person or encouraged about who you are? Have you ever watched a movie or advert and felt better about your life! I doubt it very much. You see advertising and marketing strategy is to get us to conform. They make us believe that we are not happy without ourselves and our life and so we must conform to what they say is acceptable. The best revenge we can take is to NOT conform to the things of this world. It’s not an entirely revolutionary idea, it has been around for thousands of years already. Read what the Bible has to say about conforming.

Romans 12:2
And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.

1 Peter 1:14-16
as obedient children, not conforming yourselves to the former lusts, as in your ignorance; but as He who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct, because it is written, “Be holy, for I am holy.”

So how do we be holy? By not conforming! That is how powerful not conforming is. Now of course this applies to all sorts of things in our lives and we should be sensitive to what the Holy Spirit is pointing out to you specifically. I, however, want to zone in specifically on being a woman who does not conform to what the world says we should look like. I say this because I meet far too many women who are unhappy with their physical appearance. You would be shocked if I showed you a photo of them. They are beautiful women, really beautiful but all that they can see if their one flaw rather than all their positive features. 

It is simply ridiculous and girls we need to get revenge as the enemy has taken quite a bit of ground in this area. Take a stand against this lie and start to renew your mind so that you can prove the perfect will of God. I have compiled a list of verses with my own thoughts about them. Please join me in reading one of them daily and spend the day thinking about it, say it out loud several times, if necessary go to the mirror and look at yourself and say it out loud. Transform what you believe about yourself by renewing your mind with the truth! Life will be so much more enjoyable once you find freedom from conforming to the world. 

Girls, get angry with me about this! Stop reading glossy magazines and clothing shop catalogues unless you are strong enough to not conform. Observe how you feel when you read these things, when you see billboard advertising with a pretty girl and when you watch movies. Take note of how you feel afterwards.

Step 1 – Don’t compare, ‘they’ are not real they are ‘Photoshopped’ or ‘edited’ in some way. What you see is not attainable for any woman alive, at all, EVER. It’s like comparing and apple to a steak – there is no comparison so don’t compare yourself to a women you see on TV or in a magazine.

Step 2 – Don’t believe, the message the media is sending you is a lie. The Bible contains the truth about who you are. Billions is poured into the advertising industry to make you believe, which is why it is so convincing. We are already quite brainwashed by it all so start to your part and stop believing the lie.

Step 3 – Don’t lust, after all, wanting something that is not yours to have is a form of lust. God clearly says that He will take care of our food and clothing needs . Trust Him and see how He will give you the desires of your heart , which will make you more beautiful than ever before.

Step 4 – Don’t conform, you will lose if you try to conform because it is not God’s will for you. Rather, be transformed! That is the best sort of change and it’s permanent. Conforming is an ongoing thing that requires lots of effort, energy and money. Transformation is something God does and although it requires a bit of effort initially, once you are transformed you will never be the same again.

Here are some Bible verses to get you started but do some searching and add your own to the list:

You are not a mistake, you were chosen
Just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, Ephesians 1:4a

You are pure and Holy
That we should be holy and without blame before Him in love, Ephesians 1:4b

You are no accident, you were specifically designed
I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Psalm 139:14

You are VERY beautiful to God
So the King will greatly desire your beauty; Psalm 45:11

You are loved
We love Him because He first loved us. 1John 4:19

You are free
And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free. John8:32

You are the apple of His eye
Keep me as the apple of Your eye; Psalm 17:8

The Being a Woman book and worksheets are available here

See yourself the way He sees you...

PS... Based on this post I would like to look into starting a magazine that makes women feel good after reading it! It will start as an online magazine and hopefully one day go to print, if you are interested in exploring this with me please get in touch.


Hillsong Conference

Last night we took a group of 14 people to Hillsong Conference in London.  It's was such a lifechanging experience for all of us. We spent several hours in traffic in the mini bus, ate loads of cheese rolls and fought over which radio station to listen to but it was all worth the short time we got to spend in the conference.   Priscilla Shirer was the speaker for the evening and her message was truly amazing.  She unashamedly told us how nothing matters except Jesus and the most important thing that we can do with our life is to point people to Him. 

Although we had a long drive home and only got to sleep at 3am, I woke up refreshed in my spirit, knowing what we have to do at D7 Church.  Yes we have been a church that passionately and desperately seeks Jesus, but it's time for more.  The people of Gloucester don't need Eric or I or anyone else on team, they need Jesus.  They need His healing power, they need His word for their addictions, they need His presences that breaks every bondage and they need His love that heals every hurt.  I am committed more than ever to find a way to help the lost and hurting in this city to meet with their Saviour, if that's all I do with my life then it is a life well spent.

What are you doing with your life to make sure that it is a life that points people to Jesus?  Let's share some ideas how about how we can be more effective in this.


Being a Woman - With Endurance

Endurance is perhaps not a word you would like to hear. It implies hard work, doesn't it? According to the dictionary, endurance means the capacity of something to last or to withstand wear and tear. It also means the ability or strength to continue despite fatigue, stress, or other adverse conditions.

Do you feel a little worn out, fatigued, stressed or are you facing adverse conditions? Do you feel that you can’t withstand them for much longer? The Bible tells us that we need endurance! I couldn’t find a verse for us that said that once we became a Christian we would have an easy life. My search also didn’t lead me to a verse that said that we can try for a little while and then give up. What I did fine, however, was some really tough guidance!

Hebrews 10:36
For you have need of endurance, so that after you have done the will of God, you may receive the promise.

Romans 5:3-4
More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope,

James 1:12
Blessed is the man who endures temptation; for when he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him.

In a nutshell, what the Bible tells me is that I need endurance and in order to get endurance I need to rejoice in my sufferings. To top it all off, I also need to endure temptation so that I can be approved! So why is endurance so important? What happens if I don’t bother to get endurance? Read Hebrews 12, it’s all about running the race and enduring to the end so that we may receive the prize. If we don’t endure we get nothing. There is no prize for not running at all or for giving up half way. We must be women who endure until the end, no matter what that means.

Whilst out running one morning, I became discouraged because I was tired and thirsty. I had intentionally left my water bottle in my car to motivate myself by leaving my ‘reward’ at the finish line. As I ran away from the car, I was annoyed with myself for doing that and almost turned around to run back to the car. Endurance popped into my mind. I realised that I needed to suffer a little so that I could build up my ability to run further.  
I realised that more often than not I stopped running at the first sign of tiredness, which meant I wasn’t able to run very far. In order to run further I needed to build up my endurance, which meant forcing myself to continue even though my body suffered. Doing this gave me pleasure, as I loved the results - a fitter, stronger and healthier me. My spiritual life followed a similar pattern. If I wanted to become the woman that I desired to become, I needed to build up my endurance. I had to be able to withstand some wear and tear. It also meant that I needed to grow stronger despite fatigue, stress, or other adverse conditions.

Too often, we pray for God to take away the things that cause us stress and fatigue. We complain about the wear and tear on our bodies and our souls. The big question though, is do we ever thank God for our struggles and ask Him to help us develop endurance? I don’t think many people do and without realising it, they lose out. 

When I went for my run in the morning, I did suffer but each time my endurance grew. Each time I felt better about my athletic ability and myself. It was a very rewarding experience and looking back, I am so glad I started on that journey. If I had never started running, I would never have known the joy of running and I would never have experienced all the benefits of running either. It’s the same with our Christian walk. Avoiding certain things doesn’t do anything except rob us of the joy or being able to endure them and also the benefits of having gained the endurance. Developing endurance means that you will cope better with life so it does actually mean your life gets easier. Not facing things and complaining about how hard things are only keeps you in a place of suffering. If we truly want to be free women, we need to develop some endurance. Yes, life can be hard but endurance is what brings joy not removing the hardships.

What things are you finding difficult right now that you know you need to build endurance in?

The Being a Woman book and worksheets are available here.


Free from the Past

I felt sick to my stomach! I had just realised what I had done and I was panicking. What was I thinking, why did I do this? But it was too late, it was published as an eBook and I had already started getting pre-orders for the paperback. I suppose I could have withdrawn it from print. Oh my goodness, what I had I done, what will people think of me? 

I shared my panic with Eric as he sat in bed giving the book one more read before we finalised it. I looked at him and fear hit me. What if he didn’t realise what I had wrote? What if after this final read, he changed his opinion of me? What if he thought that the 'old' Angela, the person in the book, was the present Angela? 

Earlier that morning a good friend had started probing me, asking if there was anything I wasn’t telling her. She had been reading the chapter snippets I had released on my blog and she seemed concerned. Her concern was that I was writing for cathartic purposes and I sensed she was even more deeply concerned that I was trapped in some sort of sin that I wasn’t telling her. My concern was that she thought I was still capable of such filth! Perhaps I was reading too much into her email, perhaps those were not her concerns at all. Perhaps I was panicking for no reason. 

Passion & Purity is an intense book containing great deal detail about my sordid past. I knew it would be a difficult story to admit to, but until that morning I had not doubted that it was a story that I had to share.  I watched Eric read the pages yet again. What was he thinking? What if he realised what I had done? The ‘what ifs’ began again.

“Darling, do you really have to read it again? It has been edited, I am sure it is fine and ready to print.”

“Yes, I have to read it slowly just to be sure there are no mistakes. We don’t want to rush like we did with Hope’s Journey, look what happened with that one!”

Ashamedly I recalled how Hope's Journey was printed with quite a few errors.  I agreed that we should not rush the editing process.

“OK, but can’t you skip the first two chapters? It can’t be nice for you to read all those details? Will you still love me?”

“Well.... I don’t know,” Eric said with a sly grin on his face. He was teasing me of course because to him it was a silly question. He gave me a big hug and said,

“Darling, I know who you are and nothing will change that. I will always love you. I have read your story, I know your past and I know that that is not who you are now.”

With that beautiful reassurance I walked away remembering the truth. I know who I am, Eric knows who I am and God knows who I am. I write my stories about the filth of my past so that others can be free from their past too. I write so that they can see my struggle and see how God set me free from all the guilt and shame. My story is important. I am free from my past, truly free. I know who I am today and I know that the person I write about is a different person. All things have passed away, they truly have.

I am free indeed, the only kind of freedom that truly lasts forever – the ‘indeed’ kind as mentioned in the Bible in John 8:36.

I am a new creation, truly a new person, a new being, not a better version of the old person. I am created again – a new creature, old things have passed away and ALL things have become new. Those words are in the Bible in 2 Corinthians 5:17, I didn’t make them up, God said them!  It is in this knowledge and from this freedom that I write my story, my testimony. Eric continued to read through my story and I stopped panicking because I remembered the truth. The truth that once set me free is the same truth that continues to keep me free. I am free indeed. Are you free from your past? Have you become a new creation? Are you sure? You see, I thought I was free for many years, until I ended up like a dog returning to its vomit ! 

What was the difference between then and now? Grace! The first time I rebuilt my life I tried really, really hard. I worked at it. I did my best. I stayed focused. I earned it! When I ran out of strength and couldn’t keep it up any more, I fell back into my old ways. It was then, in the filth of my fallen state that I realised that no matter how I hard I tried I couldn‘t do it myself. It was then that I asked God for his help. He responded with such love and mercy, with tenderness and grace.

Ephesians 2:8
For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God,

Find out how I found true freedom from my past in my new book, 'Free'. More chapter snippets will follow soon, full details about this book are available here

Are you truly free from your past or are you trying really hard to be a good girls?  Share you thoughts in the comment box below and I will share more of how to find true freedom in the amazing grace of God


8 Weeks to Go!

I am so excited, it's only 8 weeks until the King's Daughters Conference! Preparations are well underway and we have some fantastic surprises lined up for you.  This day is not to be missed and we have a strict number limit from the venue, so please don't wait until the last minute to get your ticket as you may miss out.  For the next few weeks I am going to offer an early bird rate to subscribers of this blog - offer ends at midnight on 31st July.


The Wheelie Case

Have you ever been distressed because you have nothing to wear!  You know, one of those days when nothing fits, you don't feel pretty and you would rather cancel the day and go back to bed than get dressed.  Well I have those days. Now I know our clothes don't define us and our identity and beauty should not stem from what we wear, but having something nice to wear does help doesn't it?  So, I have come up with a solution to minimise those bad days.  My solution is "The Wheelie Case"!  This morning I sorted out my clothes and popped the following clothes into a wheelie case:

  1. All the clothes that are too small for me that I am hoping to fit into again one day.  These clothes just make me feel fat and depressed.  They stare at me from my drawers telling me that I can't fit into them anymore so now I am fat.  Lying clothes simply have to go - no more lies, I am not fat.
  2. All the clothes that are too big for me that make me feel thinner but make me look shabby and poor, like I can't afford clothes that fit.  These clothes lie too!  I can afford clothes that fit because God is my provider and I don't have to walk around looking shabby.
  3. All the clothes that I have been holding onto just in case I want to wear them one day. I have never worn these clothes but they just sit there taking up space for no reason.
  4. The final batch of clothes didn't make it into the wheelie case, they landed in the bin.  These clothes had holes in or stains or little defects.... why did I keep them?  
Are you wondering what I am going to do with the wheelie case?  Well, tonight is our weekly Girl's Night and I am going to let one of the women take the wheelie case home for a week and take whatever clothes they would like.  Once they have sorted out their clothing they will add some items to the wheelie case and pass it onto one of the other girls for a week and so each week one of us get to change our wardrobe for FREE!   It's so exciting, I can't wait to see what ends up in the case when it's my turn to get it again.  

Why don't you start a Girl's Night, all the notes are availalbe here and why not start your own wheelie case and pass it around.  I would love to hear your thoughts and wardrobe tips. How do you beat the wardrobe blues?


Free from Masks

”I’m a warrior princess!” I said out loud to myself and to all the little wild animals and creatures that were tucked away in the long grass. The sun was blazing hot on my back as I was hacking my way through a patch of reeds near the river with my sword. I was seven years old and my sword was a piece of wood I had broken off from a tree.
      Although I wasn’t more than 10 minutes walk from the safety of my home, I felt that I was in another world on a big adventure. In this world I was a brave, mighty, warrior princess and the adventure was to find hidden treasure in the dangerous jungle. I carefully put my foot forward, pointing my toes to feel if the dry land had turned into the muddy river banks. It was safe to proceed, so I continued hacking through the next section of reeds.
      A bird’s nest caught my eye. I took a side step to the left to see if there were any eggs in the nest. I knew not to touch the nest as my scent would cause the mother to kick the eggs out of the nest. Slowly and carefully I eased closer and took hold of the reed. I could smell the very distinctive, dry smell of the nest as I peered into it and WOW, there were eggs! Speckled blue eggs, three of them, lay snug in the birds nest and I so dearly wanted to take one home. It would be so much fun to watch the egg hatch and to have a baby bird. Sadly, I knew from past experience that I shouldn’t do this. The egg wouldn’t hatch and I would have killed the baby bird inside. I also knew that the mum would reject the other eggs if she got a whiff of my scent, so I marvelled at the little eggs for a moment longer and then continued on my quest.
Nature thrilled me from an early age and I often found myself caught up in some sort of adventure in the bushes that were near to my childhood home. My parents were used to me coming home all muddy with scrapes and scratches. The bushes were my magical kingdom where I was the princess and I could be and do anything that I wanted to.
      Sometimes I would lie in the middle of a certain soft shrub and stare up at the clouds and day dream about all sorts of things. Other times I would build a fort from sticks and leaves and pretend that the fort was my home. I would catch tadpoles from the river and I would hope to see snakes and chameleons. More often than not I would return home with some creature or plant and hide it in my bedroom. I loved to play and in my fantasy games I was always the brave warrior princess.
      Other fond childhood memories include playing with my dolls. I loved playing mommy and I even had a doll hospital where my dolls needed me to care for them and help them feel better. In these games I was tender and patient and kind. The adventure was different but the game was just as fulfilling as the princess warrior games that I loved to play. In these times I also cooked with my toy cooking pots, I cleaned with my toy broom and did the ironing with my toy iron. Hours and hours of endless pleasure and delight came from caring for my dolls and playing house.
      Picture this, a little girl on the roof of a six foot high rabbit hutch, playing the leading role in a movie. Of course I was the star and I was beautiful. I would play out the whole movie in great detail, I loved the drama. At the end of the movie I would flutter my fingers, rolling them from bottom to top to show the credits rolling up the screen. The memory is still crystal clear and I recall the shade of blue of the rabbit hutch, the smell of the tree with yellow flowers that overshadowed the hutch and the feeling of the warm sun on my skin. Most of all I remember the feeling of being a star! It wasn’t that I wanted fame, at that age I didn’t understand fame. Admiration, adoration, being the heroine, being pretty and all these sort of things delighted me. Even at the young and tender age of six or seven, I loved the feeling of being loved by the handsome co-star in the movie. He would rescue me and treat me nicely. I savoured all the feelings that I accumulated in my little childish games.
      The years passed and the adventures died down. Real life crept in and my games were slowly forgotten. My friends found adventure in drinking alcohol and smoking cigarettes and hanging out on the street corner at night time. Slowly the masks were forming as I realised that the childish, playful girl that I loved to be was not acceptable any more. I traded my princess warrior identity for a tough teenage girl mask. I traded my sweet, nurturing mommy to my dolls for a girl that wanted desperately to be accepted and so I explored many different masks to gain that acceptance. No longer was I the beautiful movie star waiting to be swept off my feet by a handsome co-star. I settled for being a hot teenage girl who was admired for her nice legs. I allowed boys to have their adolescent fantasies on the great deal of skin that I exposed to them.

Find out how I got back to living free from masks in my new book, 'Free'. More chapter snippets will follow soon, full details about this book are available here


The 'Loving Life Series' Promo

The ‘Loving Life Series covers three very important subjects that have the potential to radically change your life. 

Hope’s Journey is the first book in the series, which looks at Angela’s struggle with depression and suicide.  Only after writing this book did Angela realise that she quite possibly had bipolar disorder and was healed of it through the amazing journey that God took her on.  Her story starts by describing a life of pain, despair and hopelessness that ultimately would have lead to her suicide on more than one occasion - if God had not intervened.  Today, she lives as a free woman, no longer bound by the extreme ups and downs that she once suffered from.  Hope’s Journey covers all the practical things that Angela did to find this freedom, such as eating healthy, exercising, controlling her mind, as well as the spiritual principles that ultimately saved her life.

Secure on the Rock is a continuation of Angela’s testimony but the slant has moved from depression to focus on the effects that her relationship with her abusive father had on her.  She courageously shares the details of her abuse but then quickly shows how God healed her and helped her forgive him and love him in a way that she never knew was possible.  This moving account of a God’s love for His little girl will leave you breathless as Angela takes you on a journey deep into the Father’s heart.  Not only will you be challenged to the core but you will also fall off your chair with laughter as Angela speaks frankly about all the things that caused her deep insecurity.  Our feminine ways, not always good ways, are exposed and we are challenged to face the things in our lives that prevent us from being free to live securely on the Rock of Jesus Christ.

The saga continues in a dramatic climax to the Loving Life Series with Passion & Purity.  Passion & Purity delves into the fruit of Angela’s unstable past.  She focuses specifically on how her upbringing and poor decisions resulted in unhealthy relationships with men, including several affairs during her first marriage.  Raw emotions are exposed and God’s grace is revealed in all its fullness. Angela holds nothing back!  Her heart is placed on a platter before the reader as she allows you into her innermost struggles and deepest, darkest secrets.  The end result is an overwhelming sense of the love and mercy of our God.
     No apologies are made as she reveals how God made us girls for extravagant, wild, imaginative, adventurous, fantastic loving.   Angela openly shares with readers how her search for passion landed her in all the wrong places and how she managed to find a way back to purity despite all the odds. Today Angela has the wild, passionate adventurous living that she always craved but within the boundaries of purity.

Each book in the Loving Life Series comes with an accompanying study guide so that others can work through the same issues that Angela did and find the freedom that she found.

More books by Angela here


Being a Woman - Who Judges Herself

Did you know that if you judge someone else you are bringing judgement upon yourself? Yes it’s true and it’s a scary thought. Also, the measure that you use to judge will be used back on you. Not only that, but if we compare ourselves to other people we are told by God that we are not wise. 

I don’t know about you, but judging and comparing ourselves is just what we naturally do as girls! We are born that way. From the earliest age I can remember judging others and comparing myself to other people. We are taught to compare and compete at school, we are taught to judge. It seems to be the ‘acceptable’ thing! But not according to God’s standard. His ways are higher than ours and if we are parents we should not conform to the worlds ways, we should save our children from the judgement of God by teaching them to show mercy to others from a young age. So let’s take a look at God’s ways.

Matthew 7:1-2
“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you.

Ouch! That says it just as it is, no need to try and find the hidden meaning in that, it’s very plain to see.

James 2:13
For judgment is without mercy to the one who has shown no mercy. Mercy triumphs over judgment.

This one is plain to understand too! We need to show mercy to people and not judge them. Mercy wins, judgement looses. If we don’t show mercy to others we will not receive mercy from others and from God! This is a very serious matter. I don’t know about you but I need mercy both from other people and from God. I need mercy all the time. 

I have found the best way to keep things in perspective is to NEVER think of myself more highly than I ought to. Keeping things in perspective is essential and if I even begin to feel pride creep into my heart I know that I am thinking too highly of myself. If you are aware of pride it is easy to spot in your own life, so cultivate an awareness and choose to keep yourself humble for God and before others.

Romans 12:3
For I say, through the grace given to me, to everyone who is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think soberly, as God has dealt to each one a measure of faith.

So how do we view others then? It’s easy, yet again plain put in the Bible. We view others better than ourselves.

Philippians 2:3
Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.

Esteem means regard, respect, appreciate or value. We need to regard people better than us, respect them as better than us, appreciate them as better than us and value them as better than us. 

Also, it doesn’t say to esteem only good people or worthy people, it just says people. So next time you walk past a drunk person don’t look down at him and think yourself better than him because you are not drunk – you are not better than him. Or if you walk past a mum shouting at her child in the street, don’t look down at her thinking that you are better than her because your child is behaving and you aren’t shouting – you are not better than her. 

We are in no position to judge, we have no idea why people are the way they are, we can’t begin to understand their heart and we most certainly don’t have it all figured out ourselves. If we truly want to live in God’s grace we need to judge ourselves only.

1 Corinthians 11:28
But let a man examine himself...

1 Corinthians 11:31
For if we would judge ourselves, we would not be judged.

It’s essential that we judge ourselves if we want to become the women that God wants us to be. Judging ourselves does not mean comparing ourselves to each other. We judge ourselves according to the Bible, God’s handbook for life! God has set the standard for living and we need to do our best to measure up. We shouldn’t feel condemned when we realise we don’t, it’s good to know what to aim for, isn’t it?

Do you have any thoughts on how you can live for the benefit of others?

The Being a Woman book and worksheets are available here.


Free - Introduction

There has to be more to life than this! What am I here for? What is my purpose? Who am I really? I have to find myself! Am I good enough? Who am I? These are questions everyone asks themselves at some point in their life but seldom find the answers to. 

“Free” explores all these nagging questions. No more striving and struggling to be who you think you should be, leaving you free to enjoy life to the full and just be YOU.

Identity is a subject that I am extremely passionate about! I have struggled in this area, worked hard in this area and overcome a great deal in this area. I have also dedicated my life to helping others in this area. Very few things are this close to my heart and so writing this book is like copying and pasting me onto paper! If ever there was a time and a reason to sort ourselves out it is right now. If we don’t know who we are how on earth can we fulfil our destiny? The world is crying out for men and women to fulfil their destiny. There are children in Africa dying from curable diseases every day. There are girls and boys being sold into the sex trade every day. There are people walking down your street right now with a broken heart, totally convinced that there is no hope for them. 

If you are a child of God and know Jesus as your Lord and Saviour you need to quickly sort yourself out so that you can live in the awesome plan that God has predestined for you. You don’t have to be perfect to begin, not at all. The only criteria is that you present YOURSELF to God as you are, fully accepting who you are, and get on with all that He has carefully mapped out for you.
My prayer and my heart’s cry is that this book will help you be FREE. Free from the lies of the enemy, free from the labels stuck on you by mankind, and most of all, free to live out your life with meaning and purpose, fully satisfied in every possible way. This sort of living will put a great big smile on God’s face. 

So let’s get on with living it up... no more holding back.

Chapter snippets from 'Free' will follow soon, full details about this book are available  here