If you struggle with identity and you are not sure who you REALLY are, then may I encourage you to work it out... one small step at a time.
The first step that I recommend would be to get into the Bible.
If you abide in My word, you are My disciples indeed. And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free - John 8:31-32
Get to know the truth about your creator as we are made in His image - Genesis 1:26 Ask Him to show you the truth about who you are. Our God is so faithful and He is for us not against us. I can vouch from experience that He will show you who you really are if you just ask!
Have a look at my book called Being You for more about this very subject. Share your top tips for finding out who you really are in the comment box below.