Centre of gravity is where all of the weight of an object is concentrated. This point can be inside the object or some point outside. Mass is how we measure the amount of matter in something. The more massive something is, the more of a gravitational pull it exerts. As we walk we constantly feel the gravitational pull on and we automatically pull back. Earth is obviously much more massive than we are so the pull from us will not move the Earth. However, the pull from the Earth is sufficient to move us. In addition to the dependence on mass, gravity also depends on how far you are from something. This is why we are able to stay on Earth rather than be pulled in the direction of the Sun, which has much more gravity than the Earth. Although this scientific jargon may not make any sense to some of us, it is a fantastic starting point for our study of emotional gravity.
External Centre of Gravity
Consider a horseshoe. This is a great example of an object that has an external centre of gravity. Its centre of mass isn't located at its centre, in fact, it's not even in the object, but it is in the space outside of the object. You can’t balance a horseshoe on a pivotal point when it is lying on a horizontal plane because it has an external centre of gravity. A doughnut is another classic example of an external centre of gravity because the centre of gravity is in the centre of the doughnut - in the space inside the doughnut, not on the solid ring of mass. The position of the centre of gravity determines how stable something is. Once the centre of gravity has moved beyond the base area of an object, it will no longer be stable. Emotional gravity is no different from the earth’s gravity. When it comes to emotions, when our centre of gravity is external, we will be unstable and will not find a way to balance your emotions on any pivotal point. Here are some of the common characteristics of someone with an external centre of gravity:
- Dependant on the opinions of others
- Easily angered or weeps easily
- Poor instincts
- Depressed or hyperactive
- Poor decision making
- Needy and attention seeking
- Lack of peace
- Prone to addictions
When our centre of gravity is outside of ourselves we don’t trust our instincts or anything that comes from within. Rather, we trust only what others say about us. After a period of time we lose our identity and begin to base our identity on what has been said about us and in most cases even act accordingly. Another consequence of having your emotional centre of gravity outside of yourself is that you will feel empty inside because what should be inside of you is on the outside of you. Too often people with an empty inside try to fill themselves with everything except the right thing. Addictions, domestic violence, promiscuity and many other things are often the result of someone with an external centre of gravity who is trying to find satisfaction from external vices. If we dig a little deeper we will also find that workaholism, eating disorders, broken relationships and extreme competitiveness are also the result of an external centre of gravity. A person with an external centre of gravity will easily fly off the handle when they can’t cope as they are not in control of their emotions and have nothing to find balance on.