31.8.12

Being a Woman in Business - Invitation

Today’s women seem more passionate about business that ever before.   In the sixties we fought for equal rights in the workplace, in the seventies we fought for equal pay, in the eighties we put the first American woman in space and we begun our fight against sexual harassment.  In the nineties women served in combat for the first time, during the Gulf War.  Today we are twenty first century women and there is little difference between a man or a women in business.  Or is there?


Recently I read this statement: “Successful women entrepreneurs do not look at their peers and subordinates as men or women, but just as people whom they must lead or interact with in the course of their work.”  I must say that I totally disagree with this statement and believe that a woman who understands the different between men and women will get more out of their professional life than those that deny that there are in fact differences.   

Taget Women offer a glance at the physiological variations in the brains of men and women which can be beneficial.
  • Male brains are 10% larger than female brains.
  • Female has more nerve cells in certain areas.
  • Women transfer data faster due to larger corpus collusum, making it easier for increased flexibility and multitasking.
  • Men are left-brain oriented and are largely successful in solving numbers and problems.
  • 'Gray matter' - the part that allows thinking is 55.4% in women and 50.8% in men.

This reveals that women are endowed with natural advantages that aid in creating, developing and fostering relationships. Not restricting herself to merely fostering relationships with her family, friends and society, a successful woman uses this proficiency to build and maintain a flourishing business enterprise. She translates her natural advantages into effective networking, excellent communication skills and empathetic behaviour.  Her mastery over multi-tasking influences her to initiate action with direction and integrate it with management and organizational skills. A successful woman entrepreneur has the attitude and the inner drive to change her dream, her vision into reality. 

I invite you to join me on a journey of discovering the truth about what it means to be a woman in business.  As Christian women we don’t want to fight to be like a man, we simply want to be the women that God designed us to be.  Being a Woman in Business will explore dynamic business principles that can be applied no matter what your gender but we will also explore how we can become successful business women.  This means that we will not lose our identity or femininity just because we are driven, capable individuals.  This also means that we will explore how to treat our male colleagues in a way that will get us ahead of the women that constantly fighting the men for equal rights.  Watch this space as you witness a new breed of women in business rise up to take their place.  Will you be one of them?    

Find out more about Being a Woman in Business here or use this material to host your own Girl's Night.  We also have a monthly business networking event called Women in Business, find our more here

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Being a Woman in Business is a fantastic addition to the 'Being' family where we explore dynamic business principles that can be applied no matter what your gender but we will also explore how we can become successful business women.

Being a Woman in Business is in progress and you are very welcome to join us at our Woman in Business Nights or even start your own Girl's Night - we will provide you with guidelines and study notes.  More info on Woman in Business and how to start your own event here.

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Contents:
Invitation  
The Five Stages of Business

Being a Woman in Business  
     Who has a Vision 
     Who Respects Men  
     Who is Relational  
     Who has Integrity  
     Who is Humble  
     Who has Purpose  
     Who Starts Small and Dreams Big  
     Who Feels the Fear and Does it Anyway  
     Who Thinks
     Who Understands Money  
     Who Endures  
     Who Leads by Example 
     Who Understands the Seasons  
     Who Keeps the Balance  
     Who is Confident  
     Who Puts God First  
     Who is Teachable  

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Esther or Delilah? - Esther’s Story

A long, long time ago, in a country called Persia, there lived a powerful king named Ahasuerus (aHa-shoo-eerus).  He ruled over a vast empire of one hundred and twenty seven provinces which spread all the way from India to Ethiopia.  He ruled in his magnificent fortified palace along with his a beautiful, dazzling queen, Queen Vashti. 
   During his reign, King Ahasuerus wanted to show off to his entire kingdom, so he held the most spectacular, magnificent, awe inspiring feast.  He showed the riches of his glorious kingdom and the splendour of his excellent majesty for many days, one hundred and eighty days in all .  Wine and other exotic drinks flowed without measure to all who attended.  
   Food was delightful and plentiful.  Entertainment of the highest professional quality was provided.  No expense was spared at the king’s party.  Yet, at the end of his extravagant feast, it seemed that the king’s need to display his power was not satisfied.  He proclaimed another feast; this one was for every single person in the county, from great to small, in the court of the garden of the king’s palace .
   Still, despite all the pompous parading and self-important showing off, he didn’t seem to be satisfied.   King Ahasuerus had a bright idea, an idea that would certainly be the cherry on top of the cake, an idea that would prove to all whom he ruled, that he was indeed the most powerful, most awesome king ever!  He called for his queen.  She was a beautiful queen, well groomed and something of a delight to behold.   She was his possession and his bright idea was to show her off too, so that all could marvel at how rich and blessed the king was.   The king sent seven of his finest men, to show her beauty to the people and the officials, for she was beautiful to behold.  But Queen Vashti refused to come at the king’s command brought by his eunuchs; therefore the king was furious, and his anger burned within him .
    Anger coupled with confusion left the king baffled.  He had not anticipated this.  Was she even allowed to refuse him?  Surely not!  Unsure of what to do next, he asked his wise council; “What shall we do to Queen Vashti, according to law, because she did not obey the command of King Ahasuerus brought to her by the eunuchs?”
     One of the King’s top men, Memucan, answered; “Queen Vashti has not only wronged the king, but also all the princes, and all the people who are in all the provinces of King Ahasuerus. For the queen’s behaviour will become known to all women, so that they will despise their husbands in their eyes, when they report, ‘King Ahasuerus commanded Queen Vashti to be brought in before him, but she did not come.’ This very day the noble ladies of Persia and Media will say to all the king’s officials that they have heard of the behaviour of the queen. Thus there will be excessive contempt and wrath.
If it pleases the king, let a royal decree go out from him, and let it be recorded in the laws of the Persians and the Medes, so that it will not be altered, that Vashti shall come no more before King Ahasuerus; and let the king give her royal position to another who is better than she.
   When the king’s decree which he will make is proclaimed throughout all his empire (for it is great), all wives will honour their husbands, both great and small.”
And the reply pleased the king and the princes, and the king did according to the word of Memucan.   The king, heavily under the influence of much wine and feasting, decreed that Vashti was out.  Banished.  A new queen was to be chosen.  His ego was bruised and his pride downtrodden under the harsh rejection of his queen. He walked off to his chamber sulking, not like a king but as a naughty school boy would.  What a blow that must have been, his bright idea failed and all the months of feasting were quickly forgotten.
   Questions plagued his mind.  How would his subjects view him now?  Would this outrageous action undermine his authority for all time?  Was it to be written in the history books that King Ahasuerus was the laughing stock of his entire kingdom on this disastrous day?  It was final, the decree was set in stone, even if the king wanted to change his mind now; he couldn’t, the law in Persia was unchangeable.  Once it had been written it could not be altered, even by the king himself. 
   Some time passed and the King’s anger died down.  He became lonely, bored perhaps.   His thoughts drifted towards better times, times that included a beautiful woman, Vashti.  His mind filled with thoughts of her soft skin, her beautiful face and her hands that used to touch him and bring him delight.  His heart ached, longing for intimacy with a woman.  His face drooped and his countenance became dull.  It wasn’t long before all who knew him could see plainly that something needed to be done for the king.  His joy had left him and the days of feasting would be a distant memory for all if they did not cheer him up.  The king’s servants who attended him said:  “Let beautiful young virgins be sought for the king; and let the king appoint officers in all the provinces of his kingdom, that they may gather all the beautiful young virgins to the palace, into the women’s quarters, under the custody of Hegai the king’s eunuch, custodian of the women. And let beauty preparations be given to them. Then let the young woman who pleases the king be queen instead of Vashti.”
   This thing pleased the king, and he did so.   Many beautiful virgins were prepared for him.  Persia was in turmoil, a terrifying and delightful time for families with a young virgin or two.  The town centre was filled with young girls with heavy makeup, wearing their best dress and high heels, all dressed up and standing around in the hope of being picked as the next queen.  Meanwhile other women were in hiding.  At home with their loved ones they hoped never to be discovered.  Many virgins were already in love and hoping to be betrothed to the man of their dreams.  The thought of palace life frightened them.  Other girls simply didn’t want to leave the comfort of their mother and father’s home, so they hid too. 
   The whole region was in turmoil as word got out that the king was taking virgins to his palace.  At one humble home, soldiers began beating at the door.  Each knock made Esther’s heart leap and each knock made Mordecai more fearful.  Esther was a beautiful, gracious and kind woman despite her difficult start in life.  Her parents died when she was young leaving her an orphan at an early age.  Mordecai, her older cousin, took her in and raised her as his daughter.  Together they lived as Jews in Persia.
   The knocking continued and gradually grew into harsh bashing, at which point Mordecai knew that they would not pass by and would rather break the door down than leave him alone. 

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24.8.12

King's Daughters Clothing

It's with extreme joy that I would like to share the latest addition to our shop - the King's Daughters clothing line.  Lorah has done a fantastic in designing our very first set of t-shirts.  Here is her stunning design. 


See the lovely t-shirts in the shop here and watch this space for more items.

Being a Mother - Invitation

Anyone can give birth to a baby but not everyone wants to be a mother.  Being a mother is hard work and a great responsibility.  It is a whole life that you are responsible for and your actions or lack of action could have a significant impact on this life.  Most importantly, this life is God’s child.  Knowing this should cause you to recognise the great responsibility that you have in raising one of God’s precious children. 

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, The fruit of the womb is a reward.  Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one’s youth. Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them; They shall not be ashamed,But shall speak with their enemies in the gate.   - Psalm 127:3-5

Children are the inheritance that God gives us and they are our reward.  The Bible does not say much about the practicalities of raising a child but it does speak or many principles that can be applied to parenting.  Join us as we explore what the Bible has to say about our children and how we should approach raising them and loving them.  

Find out more about Being a Mother here or use this material to host your own Girl's Night or Mum's Group.

Abundant Life - Abundant Life

I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.
- John 10:10

Abundantly in John 10:10 is from the Greek word perissos (ερισσός) which is in the sense of beyond; superabundant (in quantity) or superior (in quality); by implication excessive; exceeding abundantly above, more abundantly, advantage, exceedingly, very highly, beyond measure, more, superfluous, vehemently.

    Are your relationships, time, money and life in general operating in abundance right now?  Do you have an excess?  Is your life superabundant in quantity or superior in quality?  Do you feel advantaged?  If you can yes to all these questions then there is no need to continue reading, you have it all figured out nicely! 
    I, however, reached a point when I realised that my life was anything but abundant.  In fact, I was quite sure the I was living in the first part of John 10:10 where it says that The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy.  It seemed that nothing I did was prospering and even when I did have a minor breakthrough; it was ripped right out of my hands. At church, people were being saved but then they would disappear, people would come off drugs and show remarkable progress but then slip right back.  Our finances were definitely functioning in the first part of John 10:10, as soon as any money came our way it was instantly stolen!  Something would crop up each and every time there seemed to be a little bit of hope of getting on top of our bills.  One thing after another was either stolen, killed or destroyed in our life.  Abundance did not seem too far out of our reach, it seemed very impossible.
    Why does it seem that God isn’t blessing anything that I am doing with my life?  I said in tears one morning as Eric and I lay in bed.   Eric was ill and trying to recover from the flu that he had been suffering from all week and I was lying in bed because I had been feeling really down and depressed that same week. 
    It was one of those weeks!
Every Sunday morning and evening Eric and I would faithfully lead our little church.  During the week, we would do our best to visit people, pray for them and care for them to the best of our ability.  In addition to caring for the broken, hurting souls of Cheltenham and Gloucester, we tried our best to raise our four beautiful children and maintain a healthy marriage.  On top of that, we would try to find ways to make money to pay our bills as we were not yet paid for pastoring our church.  It was our dream to be paid but our church simply didn’t much money at all so to generate income Eric taught music and I did bookkeeping.  Even though we knew that God had called us to build our church Eric did continue to apply for every possible job he could.  His intention was not to stop building the church but in order to survive financially we felt compelled to explore all options.
    Most days we were fine.  We accepted the struggle as a part of pioneering a church.  On the whole, we were content and managed to hold onto our home, our car and eat every day.  Occasionally we event went out and had fun too.  Our life seemed quite reasonable and we often encouraged each other to be grateful for the things that we did have.  Sometimes though, we needed to vent!  Especially me, I did not have the Pollyanna anointing that’s for sure.    There were days when we just needed to let it out and be real about the stuff we tried not to talk about.  This was one of those mornings and I held nothing back!
   “I wonder if I even hear God’s voice!”  I said with tears still streaming down my face.  “For years I tried to build my business and I was convinced I heard God every step of the way but it failed.  So what was that about?  Did I hear God or not?”
Failing in my business left many unanswered questions in my mind.  Some of them made me wonder about my relationship with God.   At times, these questions crept up again and Eric and I wondered about the church we were building.
   “I know how you feel darling; I feel the same way sometimes.  At times, I wonder if I am doing what God has called me to do, or am I just doing what I want to do?”    Eric said sympathetically as I continued with my venting.
I was on a roll now and felt no need to hold back and put on a brave front!
   “I am tired of working so hard and seeing so little fruit.  Why do I write all these books and see so few sold.  Surely if God wanted to bless us with income, He could at least help me sell my books.   I would love to hear story after story about how my books have changed lived, but I would also love to see some income from my work too – is that wrong?”
Eric continued to encourage me with the kindest words he could find.  We chatted about our finances and Eric said that he was not going to do any more tithes messages until he saw the floodgates of heaven open.  He said that the felt like a hypocrite telling the church one thing but living something else.  The truth is that we were struggling financially and we were telling the church how to receive the blessing of God.   Why?  Why did we not see the things that we truly believed and preached about on Sundays? 
    Questions continued to pour out of mouths as we questioned why every Sunday people gave their life to Jesus at church and then almost every week we lost people that had been coming for a while.  It seemed like we were permanently chasing people to keep them in our church.  Surely, this is not what God intended when He said to shepherd His sheep?
    Then there was the whole issue of employment.  Since we had started the church, Eric had not been able to find a job.  He had applied for jobs over the past three years and nothing at all came up.  Why?  Was this God saying that we should trust Him and focus entirely on building the church?  Was God testing us?  Were we doing something wrong?  It didn’t make sense. Surely, if God wanted us to focus on building His Church then He would provide a reasonable amount of income for us to live on. 
    Even though the ‘why?’ plagued us we were both determined to keep doing what we were doing with our life unless we heard otherwise from God.  As we lay pouring out our hearts to each other, we realised that we had to do something about our situation.  Continuing to struggle ourselves also meant that we could not teach anyone else how to be free either.  Most importantly, we would have to exclude a whole section of the Bible from our preaching because we had no testimony what-so-ever about things like faith, healing, financial provision, etc. 
   A church without faith, healing and financial provision was no church at all.  Jesus said that He came to give us life and life abundantly!  The live we were living was not even life let alone life abundantly.  Our life was a life of keeping our heads above water, a live of survival and a life where abundantly life was only a distant dream, a possibility and a faint hope.   We could not continue to confess all the promised of God and not live them and so we committed to a journey of exploration.  Our destination would be abundant life and we would stop at nothing until our life matched up to what the Word of God said we should be living. 

Find out how our life changed in Abundant Life here or use the Abundant Life study notes for self study or for group study.  Abundant Life is guaranteed to change your life so that you can live life to the full - more abundantly.

22.8.12

D7 Men - Real Men Still Exist


I am bowled over by the quality of the men we have in our church.  My wonderful husband, Eric, has been running D7 Men for two years and the results are astounding.  D7 Men are high calibre Godly men who have courage and strength.  They face every day challenges like any other man but they don't shrink back.  Together, they are overcoming addictions, bad habits and other life difficulties.  Accountability and the direct application of the Bible to their lives are the keys to their success.  D7 Men refuse to accept things the way they are. 

D7 Men will be serving King's Daughters at our upcoming conference - girls you are in for a treat.  You will have the finest men in all of England tending to your every need.  They will make you feel like the princess that you are. And if that isn't enough, the super amazing D7 Men are putting their hands deep into their pockets and sponsoring some of the ladies who can't afford to attend the conference.  Isn't that incredible!  We truly are blessed women to have such fine men taking good care of us.  Here are some of the D7 Men in Cheltenham handing out conference flyers to the lovely ladies passing by.

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If you haven't already bought your ticket to the King's Daughters Conference please do so NOW. Ticket options here.