Being a Woman - Image of God

My deep desire is to find the truth so I thought I would start right at the beginning of the Bible - Genesis.  When God made us women what exactly did He mean?  To fully understand woman we need to understand how woman was created. She was created as part of a man (meaning mankind). Before Male & Female existed  a human was only known as man (mankind not male gender). Most importantly we can also see that man (mankind) was made in the image of God.  Before there was male and female definition, there was image of God definition - this is our most basic identity.
So what is the image of God?  Does God look like a manwoman (both male and female)? Of course not, God doesn't have a body He is a spiritual being.  Our hearts are the shadow of God's heart, that is the image of God that we bear.  So in order to truly understand who we are, we need to understand what is in our heart - the core of our being. 

Take some time this week to observe what is in your heart. and as you find things write them down.  Record your desires & your dreams, record the things that you find yourself daydreaming about and write down the secret things that you long for.  If it's not too personal please share them in the comment box below as we explore this area together.

The Being a Woman book and worksheets are available here.


The Loving Life Series

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Due to the number of requests for the other two books in the Loving Life Series I have decided to make them available for pre-order - they will be coming out before the official launch date so pre-order today here :)


Being a Wife - Heterosexual or Not?

Thank you to everyone that has sent their thoughts in, I wanted to discuss a few comments here before we continued.  Here is one reader's comment:

"My opinion? Rather than asking what being a wife is, which assumes marriage and a heterosexual couple, I think more important is asking what being a partner is.  That comprehends wives, husbands, married couples or not, same sex or not, wedd...ed according to religious views or ...not - all equally valid expressions of love and ways of sharing your life with someone important to you. And that means sharing joys and responsibilities, making each other laugh, doing things together and also having individual moments, being there for good and bad times, being supportive and sharing opinions and being tolerant of different ones, respecting and being respected. It's great!!"

I think that some of the things that were said here are really valuable and true in any relationship.  The thing that I would like to pick up on is that of being a partner as opposed to a wife.  Our aim in this year's focus is to find the truth, based on the Bible, about what it really means to be a woman.  When we were created God had a perfect plan.  His perfect plan guaranteed a perfect life and pure joy of every sort.  Sadly human beings messed up God's wonderful plan by choosing to disobey His one tiny little request - do not eat of one specific tree in the garden! Since then we have been separated from God and His perfect plan for us, thankfully He sent Jesus to fix the mess and make a way for us to be reunited to God. Although we have the option of reconciliation we still have to live in the messed up world that resulted from Adam & Eve's mistake!  This is where the Bible comes in, it is the handbook to life and helps us find out God's perfect plan for us. This is why we are going to explore the Bible over 2011 to find out exactly what His perfect plan is for women.

On this basis I am going to have to disagree with the thought that we should be exploring 'partner' as opposed to 'wife'.  'Wife, which assumes marriage and a heterosexual couple', is the only sort of wife mentioned in the Bible.  It is crystal clear that any other sort of relationship is not God's perfect plan and I really, with all my heart, want to find God's perfect plan.  It's not that I judge anyone who has decided to live a different lifestyle, it is completely your choice and I am friends with many people who lead all sorts of alternative lifestyles.   I have homosexual friends whom I love dearly, I have friends that are unmarried and live together whom I love dearly too. These friends can vouch for my sincere love for them as people :) but as far as this 'Being a Woman' series goes, we are going to make the default assumption that when we refer to wife and marriage I am writing on the basis of a heterosexual couple only.

Thank you so much for your response to this series, if you wish to discuss your opinion on being a wife then please leave your comment below or if you wish to remain anonymous please email to me.


Being a Wife - Time & Location

I have been throwing some ideas around in my head about being a wife.  What does it mean to be a Godly wife?  To start off with I wanted to eliminate some things that are assumptions either from the time or the country that we live in.  I would love to hear your views before I get stuck into sharing some of mine.  What do you think is essential to being a wife and what do you think is purely determined by the time or country that we live in?  Even if you are not married, please share your thoughts, I am really excited about getting stuck into this subject :)



Tyndale House Publishers provided me with a complimentary copy of this book in order to facilitate an honest review.  At first I didn't feel that the book offered anything new but I decided to keep an open mind as I continued to read.  Surprisingly, even though I can't put my finger on the exact moment, something changed inside of me.  Perhaps it was a deeper awareness of stuff or perhaps it was a changed perspective of stuff.  Never-the-less, whatever it was, it was good.  I didn't think that  I had a problem with stuff, as I lead a simple life, and try to avoid most of the trappings of modern living.  Or so I thought.  It seems I am just like everyone else in many ways and Unstuff really did exposed this in me.
If you want to truly open up your heart to consider whether you have a stuffing problem, then this is the book for you.  Since we are focusing on women this year, I would recommend this book as a great way to take stock of your relationship with stuff.  Stuff is anything that gets between you and your relationship with God.  We all have it, so why not take a good honest look at your relationship with stuff.

Secure on the Rock

Every little girl wants to know that their daddy thinks they are beautiful! As we grow older that need doesn’t change, but what if your daddy didn't call you beautiful? What if he hurt you and did things that he shouldn't do?  How can you feel beautiful or believe that your Father in heaven loves you when you have no idea what that means?  Secure on the Rock is an emotional roller coaster ride through Angela's experiences with her earthly daddy and the security she finally found in the heart of her heavenly daddy. 

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Free Audio:  Part 1 - Insecurity | Part 2 - Daddy 

My Daddy - A Sandy Foundation
My Darling - Freedom from controlling insecurity
My Daughters - Discovering my daddy’s delight in me
My Rescuer - Being rescued by my Prince
My Redeemer - Being pieced back together
My Rock - No turning back
My Only Hope - A life worth living

Being a Woman - 2011 Invitation

Happy New Year!
This year I am going to intentionally focus on one thing on this blog!  By the end of  2011 I would like to be able to answer one big question!  The question is... "What is the true meaning of being a woman?"   

I know you might think this an odd question, but to be honest I am slightly confused at times.  I have some thoughts, some preferences and even some convictions - which I will share with you through out the year.  I also have some concerns and some fears about being a woman - I will also share these with you.  The bottom line is that I know deep down inside that God had a perfect plan when He designed us male and female.  It wasn't random and we weren't a second thought, a plan B.  He made us male and female and said that it was good!  I look at the world around me today and what I see is not good.  I see confusion, hurt, fear and desperation.  This is not good.  Men don't know how to be men and women no longer understand how to be woman.  This has lead to the breakdown of families and ultimately wrecked our country and the world that we live in.  It should come completely naturally to us but somehow it has all got messed up.  I intend to get to the bottom of it, with your help of course :)  

I would like to invite you.. challenge you, to explore what God has to say about all this.  As our church focuses on building families this year, with Dave focusing on building the children and as Eric focuses on building the men in the family, I would love us girls to explore our part of the family as mother, wife, daughter or sister.  We will search the Bible, we will pray, we will openly discuss and see what we can come up with.  It won't be about what is right or wrong, there is already too much of that going about!  It will be about simply searching for the truth - who are we really and how do we live as God intended us to live - free and in abundance.  I  challenge you to join me on this journey to discover God's design and purpose of  women.  This journey is an open discussion both here on my blog and through regular King’s Daughters events that you are invited to, where we can explore and discover the true meaning of womanhood.  Would you like to join me in this journey?

If you have any questions you want to explore please leave a comment below or if you want to remain anonymous please email them to me.

The Being a Woman book and worksheets are available here.